We are fortunate as we go through life, to be introduced to many people along the way. A young man who I knew while still in his mama’s womb is now sharing with others what he is learning in life. The words are powerful and I feel honored to share them. Thank you, Kannon Manis! I am proud of you!
One of the most beneficial lessons I have learned in 14 years of martial arts training is the ability to hold myself accountable for my actions. This was no easy feat. In fact, it required a complete mindset change for me. For a long time I wasn’t living up to my potential as a leader and mentor because it was far too easy to blame my failures and mistakes on my circumstances, or worse, on someone else. If you have the mindset of a victim, then nothing is your fault. Every bad decision you make is easy to write off with the comfort of “It’s what anyone would have done!” But how far will that perspective get you? From my own experience I can tell you that you will lose a lot of respect if you go down that road.
There are two ways of thinking when it comes to Responsibility. The first is The Victim. If you are a victim, your life will revolve around what others can do for you, and when things don’t go as planned, it is never your fault. No great leader ever settled for this mentality. Would you ever follow someone who constantly blamed their mistakes on someone else? Or would you begin to lose any respect you had for them? That is the question I asked myself when it came time to change my worldview.
The second mindset is The Warrior. The Warrior acknowledges that every action they make bears consequences, whether good or bad. But more than that they recognize that when it comes time to face those consequences, it is far better to deal with them directly, and own up to their part in it. The Warrior uses consequences as a time for learning and personal growth. As soon as I made the change to the Warrior mentality, I realized that I had put aside childish things and started to become a responsible adult. But I never could have made that switch by myself. It was a result of the influence of my mentors: my parents, Coach Epps, and Coach Jessie.
The question I pose to parents reading this blog is this: Are you allowing your child to be content with being The Victim, or are you pushing your child to adopt the mindset of The Warrior? Ultimately, the decision is their own. But it is your responsibility to lead them on the right path! by Kannon Manis
Excellent perspective. Your parent coaches should be very proud. Being victimized is not in our control. Being a victim is. Well done.
This is brilliant… my kids all being great I wonder in what direction I actually sent them.. but this should be read by so many more people, I’m going to share it on Face Book…
Brilliant post and such a wise philosophy.
Very well said! 🙂
I think we’ve all heard about the victim mentality but this is the first time I’ve heard about the warrior mentality. I really like its concept that we are responsible and accountable for both the good and bad consequences of our actions.
Reblogged this on stuff i tell my sister.
Sadly, the young man that wrote this piece is being laid to rest today. Pray for his family. Pray for his mama & daddy. Our hearts are so sad♥