As my hubby, of almost 30 years, was leaving for work around 5 this morning, it got me thinking about boiled eggs. Try to hang with me for a second. We had been together about ten years and were still living in Newcastle, Oklahoma, at the time this occurred. With two little boys, I was rushing around trying to fix a quick bite to eat AND get us out the door in time for small group. ~TUNA~ That would be an easy sandwich if it weren’t for having to wait for the eggs to boil. I never like eggs in my tuna, but there are little things you dismiss when there’s more than one in your family and my hubby liked them. I was already leaving out onions, as I detest raw onions, so I couldn’t fuss about eggs. Finally I voiced it, “We can have tuna if you can pass on the eggs just this one time?” And that’s when the world stopped for a moment. Marvin, my husband, looked at me and said, “That’s fine, I don’t like eggs in the tuna anyway.” WHAT?!?!?!? I explained that for ten years the only reason I’d been putting eggs in was because he liked them, to which he replied, “Well I never said anything because I thought YOU liked them.” As silly as all of the above sounds, it really was a changing point in our marriage. Communication is vital. Not just in marriage but in every relationship. Both of our sons, now married, are very familiar with the “egg” story. They also hear, “Your marriage will never stay the same. If it’s not growing, it’s going stale. You have to work at it everyday.” After almost 30 years, you’d think we’d have it down, but honestly I think with all the extra “life stuff” maybe it’s even more difficult. So we are still pressing on and trying to move forward…without the eggs, of course!
Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without. ~ James C. Dobson