This is a follow-up to my Saturday post. (https://stuffitellmysister.me/2012/03/24/three-years-ago-today/ )While “three years ago” has been on my mind these past few days, who pops up on my Facebook as a friend request, but Ginifer Ree! She is the dear and sweet witness that was there for me when I had my accident. In visiting with her via Facebook last night, I told her about my Saturday post. She then said that I should go to her “notes” on her Facebook page. I read her October 5th, 2011, entry. Ginifer has graciously allowed me to share it with you:
WAKE UP CALL!!!
So, as most of you know, my husband & I have been going through some pretty rough stuff this last year financially. A couple of weeks ago, right in the midst of all our chaos & at the very peak of it when I didn’t think I could handle anymore, something I think is pretty significant happened to me & it has been on my heart ever since to share. This isn’t a debate about religion or anything, just about my personal beliefs, feelings & the way that I interpret certain things in my heart. This is what happened.
I was already having a pretty rough start to my day, trying to get Ashlynn adjusted to her new schedule for school & dealing with all of her stuff including working on mom’s house, figuring out finances, getting moved out of the other house by that specific date, my ulcer….you name it, we were probably going through it. Ash woke up mad & crying b/c she was tired, which normally does not start me off to a good day either. I got her off to school, then mom & I headed over to the other house to try to get a couple of truck loads of stuff. It was an all around HORRIBLE day. I was on the verge of crying that day & my stress level was through the roof. I didn’t feel like I could handle much more at that time. I wanted to literally climb in a hole & hide. Yes, it was THAT bad. I consider myself a pretty strong person & I can carry a lot on these broad shoulders of mine, but that particular day, I was feeling helpless.
I went to check the mail just to see if anything had come, since I had all of our mail forwarded to the new address & there shouldn’t have been anything coming to that address anymore. There was a card in the mail & I didn’t recognize the return address. I opened it & this is what it said.
“~Dear Kelly & Ginifer,
On 3/24/09, you witnessed an accident near Sonic on 116th. My car was t-boned after a young lady ran a light. Now, over 2 yrs passes & my surgeries are over & the case is closed & I can finally tell you both THANK YOU so much for staying to inform OPD & for just being there, when you didn’t have to be involved at all. Your kindness is so much appreciated! May God richly bless you both!
I read this card & my eyes welled up with tears & automatically I thanked God. He knew I was in a dark place that day & He knew I needed a wake up call. And that was what I got. This lady’s wreck was terrible & we witnessed the whole thing. Ash still talks about it to this day every time we drive by that spot & I can see it replaying in my mind even as I type this. It amazes me that someone in that bad of shape would even think to find out who we were & thank us for staying with her. She even enclosed a $10 gift card to Sonic. She thought that much about what we did, even seeming so small to us, to send us a card & a gift over 2 years later. I took away a HUGE message out of that one little card. It amazes me. I wrote her back telling her how much her card & thoughts meant to me & how it totally changed me that day & the rest of that week for that matter. I wouldn’t have done anything different that day.
Life is too short to be mad at someone, especially family, over stupid petty things. Life is too short to be mean, hideous & judgemental to people, you never know what someone else might be going through in their life. Life is too short to think that just b/c you have more than someone else that you are better than them. Make as many friends as possible. Don’t have any enemies. Think about what you are going to say to someone & how it will affect them BEFORE you say it. Forgive them & let God be their judge. Besides, in the end, none of this stuff will matter. You can’t take it with you. I got it. I hope someone else gets it too. 😉
Wow….coincidence? I think not. So great to connect with you again, Ginifer! And under better circumstances. Thanks for all you did AND for reconnecting with me! I promise to pay your kindness forward. May God richly bless you and yours ♥